Remarrying? The same questions exist the second time around that were there the first time. Maybe it's a good idea, maybe not, a million factors go into that. Hopefully you learned whatever lessons you needed to from the first experience, but don't just avoid the pitfalls from the first marriage. Keep your eyes wide open and make sure you're not trading one set of problems for another. There are actually many, many good women out there (in spite of the name of this website...lol). But there are some real terrors too. You have to examine what you have, and really weigh each factor. You can avoid all the pain and suffering by just avoiding marriage. But by the same token, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
I really landed on my feet after my marriage failed. I met a great woman, and it made me realize how unhappy I was with my first wife. If I would have met her first, I think I would have been happy in marriage right away. I was never that happy with my first wife, even when we were just dating. This experience just tells me that there are good matches and bad matches. So I definitely would take the plunge again, but I would hope that anybody considering the step for either the first or second time really examines the relationship first. Only do it if you are absolutely certain.
That's a nice story, Tony. I also landed on my feet after I split with my husband. Met a really great guy, who cares for both me and my children. We're both divorced, and we got married to each other recently. Communication and understanding are the secrets to love. There is no set answer to whether a person should remarry, it is dependent on finding the right match. But if you're lucky enough to find it, don't be afraid to take the plunge. Life is too short to live it in fear of failing again.
Submitted by bitch on wheels on Fri, 08/08/2008 - 04:54.
For site by the name of Shes Evil, some of you people are pretty sappy. I get a nice percentage of my ex husband's salary every month, I have the house, I have both cars, and I can do whatever I want without having to check with a man first. I have no desire to remarry, why should I give a man influence over any of my decisions. You guys on here can have your fun meeting women on all these different dating sites, just make sure you keep sending that check to your ex every month. She deserves it!
Bitch, most people want more than that. In general we all want to be involved in a relationship with someone whom we have mutual respect and interests. That's not sappy, it's normal to want to love and be loved. You may have had a miserable marriage but it doesn't mean every relationship is doomed to failure.
Submitted by bitch on wheels on Sat, 08/09/2008 - 22:21.
Ok Harvey,blah blah blah....say what you want, all I'm saying is that the current state of divorce laws work just fine for me. I tried that mutual respect and love thing with my husband. It didn't work out, so I learned the easy way that if you're married to a successful man, and things don't work out, a woman can be rewarded very handsomely. Works for me. If hooking up with women on these sites works for you, knock yourself out. But if you think you're all going to band together and try to change the divorce and property laws, be forewarned. Women like me will fight you tooth and nail, and we'll have the lawyers behind us too. We will go after any politician who entertains your attempts to tip the balance of power. No politician or judge out there wants to have the "anti-feminist" label pinned to them. If you think you are going to change things with web sites like this, you better bring your A-game. We've been winning these battles for two generations now.
Bitch on wheels sounds like she thinks somebody would actually want her again. Who the hell would want a bitter, dried up gold digger like that anyway. Bitch, I'm sure your ex hubby thinks it's a bargain to be rid of you, whatever he pays. Women like you are the reason some men can't stand being married. Enjoy the money, I bet no man could stand being with your ass. Can't enjoy the money when you die bitter and lonely.
Bitch on wheels, In the past granted women got the short end of the stick and were in fact treated horribly in divorce situations. That said, whats happening today is just as bad and unjust. Men today are being made to overpay for the injustices that occurred in the past. Its time to find a fair and equitable solution to the divorce crisis before things get so out of hand that everyone pays dearly.
Anyone who would consider marrying again deserves someone like this bitch on wheels. Im amazed that guys who have been so badly burned would ever consider swimming in those same waters again. No wonder psychiatry is such a profitable business.
Submitted by celticpride77 on Sat, 08/16/2008 - 22:07.
Some of us use the divorce to learn how to be patient and to look for qualities we desire in women. If you can truly not rush in and search for an ideal match re marrying can be great
My best friend recently remarried after being divorced for five years from a disastorous marriage of fifteen years. The new marriage is less than a year old and he's already moaning about what a nasty bitch the new wife is. He was the happiest guy in the world as a single guy but was afraid of growing old and being alone. He really believed the new wife was the right one and yet he's miserable again. I think marriage has become an outdated institution and although it sounds nice in reality no two people are meant to remain in a long term relationship.
Remarrying might make sense, but hopefully you learn from your mistakes. That's why bitch on wheels will die lonely, she's the type of woman every man wants to get away from. But there are normal women out there too, who were in bad relationships and weren't necessarily to blame. Some of us are no bargain either, so if you find a good one, why not take a chance. Hopefully, the experience won't be as bad as with your ex wife, and hopefully you'll be a better match for her as well.
What's good about the second time is you have been through the unpleasantness of the first marriage and although going through a divorce is horrible it's hopefully a life lesson. The second time allows you the opportunity to sit back and carefully choose the type of person who will make you happy. It can be a rewarding and exciting experience if you find the right person.
The problem with the second marriage is if it fails you face the prospect of becoming a three time loser. Most people understand if you have a bad first marriage and end up divorced. After a second divorce believe me as I can personally attest women look at you very suspicously. They either think you have some kind of dark side or your judgement is poor. It's alot harder after the second one goes bad to meet someone.
Mike, I think you have something there. Once you are divorced there is a tendency for some people to look at you as damaged goods. Many women have told me they do not date divorced men simply because there are so many single guys why get involved with someone who has potential baggage. Sounds harsh but I can see their point. Having two failed marriages on your resume is definitely something that will turn off a significant portion of women.
Remarrying? The same
Remarrying? The same questions exist the second time around that were there the first time. Maybe it's a good idea, maybe not, a million factors go into that. Hopefully you learned whatever lessons you needed to from the first experience, but don't just avoid the pitfalls from the first marriage. Keep your eyes wide open and make sure you're not trading one set of problems for another. There are actually many, many good women out there (in spite of the name of this website...lol). But there are some real terrors too. You have to examine what you have, and really weigh each factor. You can avoid all the pain and suffering by just avoiding marriage. But by the same token, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
I really landed on my feet
I really landed on my feet after my marriage failed. I met a great woman, and it made me realize how unhappy I was with my first wife. If I would have met her first, I think I would have been happy in marriage right away. I was never that happy with my first wife, even when we were just dating. This experience just tells me that there are good matches and bad matches. So I definitely would take the plunge again, but I would hope that anybody considering the step for either the first or second time really examines the relationship first. Only do it if you are absolutely certain.
That's a nice story, Tony. I
That's a nice story, Tony. I also landed on my feet after I split with my husband. Met a really great guy, who cares for both me and my children. We're both divorced, and we got married to each other recently. Communication and understanding are the secrets to love. There is no set answer to whether a person should remarry, it is dependent on finding the right match. But if you're lucky enough to find it, don't be afraid to take the plunge. Life is too short to live it in fear of failing again.
For site by the name of Shes
For site by the name of Shes Evil, some of you people are pretty sappy. I get a nice percentage of my ex husband's salary every month, I have the house, I have both cars, and I can do whatever I want without having to check with a man first. I have no desire to remarry, why should I give a man influence over any of my decisions. You guys on here can have your fun meeting women on all these different dating sites, just make sure you keep sending that check to your ex every month. She deserves it!
Re-Marriage
Bitch, most people want more than that. In general we all want to be involved in a relationship with someone whom we have mutual respect and interests. That's not sappy, it's normal to want to love and be loved. You may have had a miserable marriage but it doesn't mean every relationship is doomed to failure.
Ok Harvey,blah blah
Ok Harvey,blah blah blah....say what you want, all I'm saying is that the current state of divorce laws work just fine for me. I tried that mutual respect and love thing with my husband. It didn't work out, so I learned the easy way that if you're married to a successful man, and things don't work out, a woman can be rewarded very handsomely. Works for me. If hooking up with women on these sites works for you, knock yourself out. But if you think you're all going to band together and try to change the divorce and property laws, be forewarned. Women like me will fight you tooth and nail, and we'll have the lawyers behind us too. We will go after any politician who entertains your attempts to tip the balance of power. No politician or judge out there wants to have the "anti-feminist" label pinned to them. If you think you are going to change things with web sites like this, you better bring your A-game. We've been winning these battles for two generations now.
Bitch on wheels sounds like
Bitch on wheels sounds like she thinks somebody would actually want her again. Who the hell would want a bitter, dried up gold digger like that anyway. Bitch, I'm sure your ex hubby thinks it's a bargain to be rid of you, whatever he pays. Women like you are the reason some men can't stand being married. Enjoy the money, I bet no man could stand being with your ass. Can't enjoy the money when you die bitter and lonely.
Pendellum swings
Bitch on wheels, In the past granted women got the short end of the stick and were in fact treated horribly in divorce situations. That said, whats happening today is just as bad and unjust. Men today are being made to overpay for the injustices that occurred in the past. Its time to find a fair and equitable solution to the divorce crisis before things get so out of hand that everyone pays dearly.
REMARRYING is RIDICULOUS
Anyone who would consider marrying again deserves someone like this bitch on wheels. Im amazed that guys who have been so badly burned would ever consider swimming in those same waters again. No wonder psychiatry is such a profitable business.
Re Marrying
Some of us use the divorce to learn how to be patient and to look for qualities we desire in women. If you can truly not rush in and search for an ideal match re marrying can be great
Pain and suffering revisited
My best friend recently remarried after being divorced for five years from a disastorous marriage of fifteen years. The new marriage is less than a year old and he's already moaning about what a nasty bitch the new wife is. He was the happiest guy in the world as a single guy but was afraid of growing old and being alone. He really believed the new wife was the right one and yet he's miserable again. I think marriage has become an outdated institution and although it sounds nice in reality no two people are meant to remain in a long term relationship.
Remarrying might make sense,
Remarrying might make sense, but hopefully you learn from your mistakes. That's why bitch on wheels will die lonely, she's the type of woman every man wants to get away from. But there are normal women out there too, who were in bad relationships and weren't necessarily to blame. Some of us are no bargain either, so if you find a good one, why not take a chance. Hopefully, the experience won't be as bad as with your ex wife, and hopefully you'll be a better match for her as well.
2nd time around
What's good about the second time is you have been through the unpleasantness of the first marriage and although going through a divorce is horrible it's hopefully a life lesson. The second time allows you the opportunity to sit back and carefully choose the type of person who will make you happy. It can be a rewarding and exciting experience if you find the right person.
Next up is three time loser
The problem with the second marriage is if it fails you face the prospect of becoming a three time loser. Most people understand if you have a bad first marriage and end up divorced. After a second divorce believe me as I can personally attest women look at you very suspicously. They either think you have some kind of dark side or your judgement is poor. It's alot harder after the second one goes bad to meet someone.
Unfortunate but true
Mike, I think you have something there. Once you are divorced there is a tendency for some people to look at you as damaged goods. Many women have told me they do not date divorced men simply because there are so many single guys why get involved with someone who has potential baggage. Sounds harsh but I can see their point. Having two failed marriages on your resume is definitely something that will turn off a significant portion of women.